Coping and Resilience Key to Accepting One’s Type 1 Diabetes 

While living with type 1 diabetes (T1D) is challenging, accepting it might be even more so. It’s quite a load to take on: understanding the illness, reorganizing your daily life around it and being mindful of all that needs to be done on a daily basis to optimize blood sugar management. 

Each person with T1D feels, sees and experiences the illness in their own unique way. Over time, a patient can learn to cope by managing their diabetes and treatment in a way that optimizes their overall health. But is it possible to accept living with this chronic physical illness? What does this mean? How is this possible?  

If each person has their own unique experience with diabetes, how can you tell a child, a teen or an adult that they have to accept T1D and learn to live with it?

The coping process

Coping with T1D and managing the stress and requirements of its treatment while maintaining self-esteem is a five-step process similar to the stages of grief. The order and length of each step vary from one person to another depending on their life experience or environment (e.g., more or less quick, more or less conscious, more or less intense). Just like each person experiences grief differently, some steps might overlap or simply not surface.

Life being what it is, some days are more difficult and can make a person go through certain steps all over again even though they felt they were done with the process.

  • Shock and denial

This first step follows the diagnosis and is characterized by denial (e.g., “my child will get better”, “this can’t be diabetes; nobody in the family has it”) or minimizing the existence of diabetes, its chronic nature and the need for treatment. The person who goes through this step is scared of this new reality and the potential threat to their physical integrity (e.g., “it’s nothing serious”, “I don’t feel ill”).

  • Outrage and rebellion

Diabetes and its treatment are seen as being unfair. The patient understands the threat, but also sees the negative aspects of diabetes. Because they feel like they are being treated unfairly, they might resent others, blame the world (e.g., “why me?”, “this is not fair”) and feel anger, defiance or frustration. 

  • Negotiation and bargaining 

The patient seeks to have more “control” over their diabetes to reduce the feeling of helplessness. They follow the treatment only partially, leaving out the aspects they dislike the most (e.g., “I take insulin, but I don’t count carbs. I don’t need to count carbs; I’ll live with it!”). Of course, this feeling of “control” is only an illusion; all aspects of treatment—even the most irritating ones—are essential to achieve good blood sugar management.

  • Reflection, resignation or depressive feelings

This is the last step before acceptance. The patient realizes that T1D is a chronic condition and that some losses may be permanent (e.g., lifestyle, ability to do an activity spontaneously). With this new awareness, the patient may feel sad and wonder whether they can live with this condition for the rest of their life. 

  • Acceptance

The patient now has a more realistic understanding of their condition and decides to take concrete steps to manage their diabetes and treatment in their daily life. They realize that achieving psychological well-being and a satisfying social life is within their reach if they get involved in their treatment and learn more about T1D. They don’t necessarily agree with having to live with this condition, but they accept to follow recommendations for managing their T1D by taking conscious measures. 

Going through these steps might be easier with the support of resources such as your healthcare team, your family and friends or fellow T1D patients. Without forcing someone to accept their diabetes, you can support them and sympathize with the emotional journey they have to take to achieve acceptance.

Resilience is your friend

The ability to overcome challenges—including those that are specific to T1D—, to bounce back and to eventually rebuild yourself optimistically (e.g., after the diagnosis) is called resilience. If resilience is not your strong suit, there are strategies that can help you build and boost it.

  • Identify and use your inner resources. Each person has their own tools to face challenges and achieve their goals—and that is also true for people with T1D who must follow their treatment. Identifying and using your strengths (e.g., what you know, what you like to do) will help you live better with T1D (e.g., “I can downplay my situation using my sense of humour”, “I can find solutions to T1D-related problems using my creativity”). 
  • Identify and use social and environmental resources. People around you (e.g., family, friends, colleagues, roommates, healthcare team) who are already involved or who want to help you live better with T1D are precious resources. They can support you, help you when you need it, empathize with you and help make you feel less alone. 

Other healthcare professionals (e.g., psychologists, social workers) are also good resources to help you build resilience and achieve your T1D-related goals.

Getting in touch with other people who live with T1D (peer support) can also support emotional, social and behavioural coping with diabetes. Studies have found that people who use peer support manage their blood sugar better than people who don’t.

  • Identify and use technological resources. Technological tools (e.g., continuous glucose monitoring [CGM] systems, insulin pumps) are known to have a positive impact on quality of life and can help you feel more in control and build resilience. 

Generally speaking, acknowledging your coping efforts and practising self-compassion are key to further adapt to your treatment and live better with T1D over time.


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Meeting or chatting with people with T1D

There are many groups and activities.

  • The VPN Facebook page welcomes people with T1D aged 14–24 years who live in Canada. You can share your knowledge, discuss recent diabetes-related developments or share funny stories with T1D peers. Find out more.
  • Specialized summer camps for children with T1D. Find out more.
  • Facebook group for people with T1D in Quebec. 


The pandemic has made it more difficult to cope and to build resilience. If you feel like you are losing control, reach out to one of the resources below; they are there to help you.

  • kidshelpphone.ca
  • Info-Santé 811
  • Help and suicide prevention phone line (1-866-APPELLE or 1-866-277-3553) if you or someone you know is thinking about suicide.

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